Tips for Mothers

Sadly enough many little girls around the world are sexually abused by their loved ones or people very close to them.  More than ever, these little girls need support, understanding, patience and love to help guide them through the healing process.  As hard as it may seem, their little minds can heal from this ordeal through the power and love of Our Redeemer, Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  They can restore and experience a healthy life full of God's love within them.  So, understand and believe that you don't fret or worry anymore.  There is hope and God's grace awaiting you, if you believe in Jesus.  Jesus said, "with people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God." (Mark 10:27)  Ephesians 2:8-9 says, "For is it by grace you have been saved through faith; and not that of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast."  Believe, have faith and trust in God.        

A pray for you. Will you stand in agreement with Minister Sabrina Evans?
Minister Sabrina Evans and I ___________ (state your name) stand in agreement, to declare and decree the blood of the Holy Lamb, your Son, Jesus Christ upon my soul, upon my family, and upon my house that the Holy Spirit whom Jesus sent as our comforter may be with me and my daughter to comfort us as we seek redemption and salvation through Jesus from an experience this is horrific and defiling according to your laws.  Father, hold us, heal us, transform us and restore us.  Father, be a lamp, a guiding light for me and my daughter.  At this very hour, we ask that you impart wisdom and guidance upon me to know and do what is best for my daughter, according to your will, put in my path the person(s) who can assist me with any legal matters that may arise or therapy for healing so that I may help her through this process.  Father, we pray that my faith grows deeper than ever before, building a confidence level in you that is so strong, it can not be shaken and would be held steadfast, O'Lord, regardless of what any proceedings, interviews or people around me may say; that through Jesus and you, Father, I will find the strength to stand for yourself and my daughter and hold on to it even in the midst of doubts and worries; that in this process, I will submit my entire self you, Father, casting off the concerns of my mind and fear within, believing and trusting in you, Holy Father in Heaven above, that you will answer all that we are asking for in this prayer. Jesus said in Mathew 18:19,"Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by my Father who is in heaven. We pray, Father, that your will be done in my life and my daughter's life; that you may give us your gift of grace; that my daughter and I shall find peace in our hearts through Jesus from this day forward and that your love, Father, hidden in that place within our hearts will be revealed as the shinning light it is.  Father, Yahwey, Most High God, we humbly bring this petition before your throne already believing it to be done, in the precious and Holy name, Jesus Christ. Amen.

A Note from the Founder
My dear sister, its ok to tell our Father that you are afraid, that you do have concerns, that you are trying hard to let them go and give them to Him, that you may not know what to do, where to go or how to start, and that you yourself need comfort and help to be strong for your daughter and yourself.  Be not held captive by the worries and fears of the flesh.  Its better to be honest and upfront with the Lord than to be dishonest about what He already knows.  Now, is a time to totally focus on your daughter and you.  The healing process must be begin.  God is love and His love is sovereign.  To know God, is to know love.  Revelation brings healing.  Remember to read the Word of God every day and pray continuously without ceasing.  You are in our prayers as we remember all of our sisters in the world suffering from this very same experience.  Know that your suffering can end and joy will come.  Keep seeking the Lord and He will reveal Himself to you.  The bible says, life and death lies within the power of the tongue.  What we speak out of our mouths has real power and will manifest itself in our lives. 

Below, are a few simple affirmations that you and your daughter can repeat throughout the day, everyday.  Even if you don't quite believe it yet, trust me, just say it and over time you will begin too.  (You may want to write these down and memorize them).

Affirmations
"I am a conqueror."
"Through Jesus Christ I am recovering and restoring my life, because through him all things are possible."
"God loves me and I do too."
"I am love."
"I am beautiful."

I love you, sister, and God does too. Your sister in Christ,




Here are some tips to assist Mothers as they help their daughters through what can be defined as an indescribable, painstaking experience and process that is fully capable of being healed by faith in Jesus Christ.

Create a comfortable and trusting atmosphere.
Sharing this type of information is hard, so try your best for your daughter's sake to be open, never show your feelings, stay calm in front of her, listen and praise her for sharing information.  Making surprising remarks and/or showing facial expressions may shut her down and make her scared to share any more information if she feels like what she shared triggered an alarming response from you.  Stay calm and collected as what she may shares may shock you.  All in all, let her how important it is to share this type of information with you or someone else you both trust. 

Keep a log.
Write everything that you can remember your daughter says, the date and any emotion(s) she may express while sharing information.  This log may or may not be helpful at a later date.   

Talk to her about what "inappropriate touch" means.
Explain to your daughter what "good touches" are and what "bad places" are on her  body.  Be gentle as not to scare her so that she will not "clam up".  Sometimes, children who have been abused can withdraw and withhold information, because they are frightened.  You can make a game out of it using her dolls to explain what places on her body are inappropriate and appropriate for others to touch.

Don't ask her questions.
Don't ask your daughter questions, let her talk.  This can be used against you as authorities may believe you are suggesting things to her.  Your job is to make her feel safe and comfortable.  Instead, you may want to tell her things like "it is ok to talk to mommy if you want to"; "sharing information is a good thing"; "mommy shares information with (name someone you both know and trust)"; "mommy loves you and cares about you".  Be calm...relax so that your daughter can relax.  Children watch everything their parents do and they listen carefully even when we think they are to everything we say. 

Play Christian/Gospel Music.
Sing gospel songs with your daughter everyday.  This can be very healing and help to reaffirm faith.  Singing can bring her joy, comfort her, as well as, lift her spirit up and yours too.  

Tell her positive things about herself.
Say positive affirmations with and to your daughter everyday.  Practice negating the negative feelings she may feel inside.  For everything she may have heard bad or feel, she will need to hear several times over good things about herself to make her feel better inside.  This can help lift her spirit up and rebuild her self-confidence.  You might tell her to repeat..."I am a more than conqueror", "I am salt of the earth", "God's light shines within my spirit", "Jesus lives in my heart", "I love myself", "God loves me". 

Be her "Rock".
Always be positive in front of her.  She follows your lead.  Never let her see you cry.  If mommy breaks down, she may also.  This may bring about stress in her as she may become confused and upset worrying why her mommy is crying.  If you must, go into another room.  Remember, this unfortunate experience is not about how you feel, it is about her and how she feels.  In order to help her through the experience you must be strong.     

Seek therapy for her.
Because time is of the essence when dealing with the nature of this type of misfortunate circumstance, be sure to use it efficiently.  Immediately shop around for a therapist that best fits the comfort zone of you and your daughter.  This person should be someone you think your daughter can build a relationship with so that over time she will feel comfortable talking about her experience. 

Seek therapy for yourself?
If needed, it may be a good idea for you to seek therapy for yourself as well.  You may want to start with your church or an independent service.  Sometimes, dealing with emotions so painful can be hard to say the least.  There is much to process in a situation such as this.  Mommy needs to heal too. 

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