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God-Centered Relationship Think About It?
Does the your mate, relative or
friend get angry fast, have fits of rage or say negative things that
alters how you cope for the rest of the day?
Do you believe that God is the author of anger, rage or confusion?
Does your mate, relative or friend act in a kind and compassionate
way?
Does your mate, relative or friend have a forgiving heart?
Are you open to considering that you may be in an unhealthy
relationship?
Thought
Sometimes we don't recognize mistreatment towards us and call it for
what it really is. Usually we're too ashamed to label it as
"abuse". This may be due to the fact that we feel bad about it
and don't want to acknowledge it. It's hard to believe that
we'd "put up" with such behavior in a relationship, because society
places a stigma on people who are abused whether emotionally,
verbally or physically. It may also be due to the fact that we
are used to hearing this type of language and engaging in this type
of communication and didn't realize it. For those who grew up
in homes or around a relative where people were called names,
degrading and mean comments were made, or rude language was used, it
becomes the "norm".
What we need to understand is
that is type of language and behavior does not stem from something
we did or do to that person (although that's what they want one to
think). Typically they say "you provoked me"; however, no one
is responsible for another person's actions. Sometimes you'll
even find a close relative or friend agreeing with them, because
they too don't want to admit it or recognize the behavior as
abusive. Usually, a person who is abusive is insecure with
themselves and needs to control situations in and around them.
Their goal is to brake you down emotionally enough to gain a "sense
of power" over you in order to feel in control. This "power"
that they think they have over you fulfills their own personal
voids.
Abusive behavior is learned.
Experiencing it as a child can be confusing, because you learn that
this behavior is love. Some of us grow up and repeat the same
behavior that we experienced or accept it in relationships.
What's more interesting is that sometimes we accept this language
and form of communication in our adult lives and don't realize it's
wrong simply because we were used to hearing it and told or shown
affection at other times.
Typically, abusive relationships occur in cycles. One may
experience several cycles for years and still not know they are
being abused emotionally or verbally. Sometimes it takes
someone on the outside looking in like and close friend or relative
who is familiar with what's going on in the relationship to say you
are an abused woman or girl.
Being in an abusive relationship can change you
in many different ways. For example, one can become more
argumentative, quick to anger, and get more frustrated easily.
The more time that goes by the more complicated the whole situation
can become, because abuse can escalate in stages sometimes making it
harder to get out.
How can one recognize
unconditional love and what type of behavior to expect from your
partner if they've never experienced a God-loving, God-centered
relationship? Often times, many of us have no point of reference or
record of experience regarding interpersonal relationships that are
fruitful. So, while we have to take responsibility for our
choices, we can not beat ourselves up in the process when coming to
terms with the fact that we are in a abusive relationship.
What we should do is
take time to learn
what Jesus taught about relationships, marriage
and loving others in the Bible, not only for yourself but others
also. You can find several references on this website as our
goal is to help women and young girls begin the healing process and
stay the course. If you are already on the path of
transformation, continue to read and meditate on God's word everyday
and keep striving to live according to His will. It is only
when we are planted like a tree, as King David said, by streams of
water and we do not wither that we will prosper in relationships and
everything else that we do. "...on his law he meditates day
and night."
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that is considered evil to the Holy Father. In the Lord's name, we rebuke
satan in the
name of Christ Jesus of Nazareth.
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